“And they are about to be married.” Many of you, after seeing this first sentence can sense that something is going to be wrong here, as it’s the word “marriage” involved. Of course if this comes in end it’s indication of a happy ending. But in the beginning, little strange, and that’s the case here. Still you need not to worry it will not take much time before getting chaotic, but will take some of it.
She was so beautiful that in college days when classes not used to run properly, her friends used to call her for attending college, and it affects not only on attendance of students but even some of the teachers. Well rounded face with glittering dark eyes and hairs to match with it, an absolutely stunning figure, neither skinny nor flabby, seems like a well trained sand artist have given shape to ocean battling sands; which ads some more oohs! And aahs! to Follow.
In a small town, on the outskirts of Uttar Pradesh in 1982, under age marriage was not a big crime as now days, and if it is, then not considered by people. Even in those days glimpses of change in social structure were beginning to appear. For your introduction to the fact, it was not common for boy and girl to meet and see each other before marriage but that’s the case in the story of Shreya and Sahaj. Oh! I am sorry I forgot to introduce you to them; they are those about whom it is.
Their families arranged to see and meet each other, to know each other better before marriage and they saw each other for the first time right then. They merely talked each other; it’s more for comfort of their parents. But even of those in between questions she answered with confidence, in spite of little inherent usual nervousness she had the confidence of being literate. (Rare in that part for a girl to be a graduate what she was going to be.)
All fixed soon and before marriage one day, her mother called her and told only one thing to follow in her new life, “Now you are going to be married and I hope you lead a good life not one as mine, and only reason why I suffered my child is because I had to live on what your father said as you know it better.” With drops at the corner of eyes she continued,“It was not possible in our days to be independent. Before marriage we have to live under the guidance of father and brother and after that under husband. But now scenario is changing and that’s why I wanted you to study. Your sister not took it much seriously but you did and now it’s the hardest time to continue it but I want you to do it and I know you are capable of doing so, and after that you will be something on your own, and then you have not to live under any pressure, this is what I want. This is my wish for you, I don’t want you to bear that same humiliation which I had my child.” By the time she took her in lap soaked with tears.
On the other side family of Sahaj and he himself was very happy. Considering he was going to marry so well cultured, beautiful, and literate girl. Death of his father in early childhood when he was about to appear in board exams stroked his family fiercely. Because he was the only source of money to the family, the strike was both emotionally and economically very hard. Sahaj was dearest son of his father and in spite of being younger son; he bared all the responsibility of his family, of his mother and two brothers, one younger than him and one older. He did everything to feed his family from vegetable selling up to cart pulling. He was very laborious, sincere, innocent and honest from early days of school that’s why everyone liked him and he continued this for most part of his life.
It used to be heavy flood in that part of U.P. and canal of his village used to be in full flow. Sahaj’s school was situated on the other side of canal. He used to cross whole canal just for attending a class, while other friends refused to do so. When his uncle used to drive him to see for his cows, instead of going to school, he always left them in fields and runs away for attending his classes. His friends forced him even for smoking many times but he never followed them. He was favorite student of his teachers too, because with being good in studies he was very good in sports and singing. He even won 1st prize for his school team in singing at district level once. All and all he was the most favorite and dear one of school.
After the death of his father his family went in deep hole, he fought through everything when time was not on their side. He even had no footwear and walked barefooted in the months of May and June. When he walks on the road hot charcoal sticks with his foot, for getting some relief he walks in sand, beside the road, which proves to be even much hotter and so he runs on the road again. This process continues and by seeing so, people use to moan on his helplessness. Often people come forward to give him some money or help which he always refuses with furry.
His self respect not allows him to take anything cause he is ready to see him poor but not as a beggar. Children often wonder that if their mother has a soft and kind nature towards them why their father has a clustered one in comparison, the reason is that for advancement in life and it’s “hard to establish oneself” scenario a male becomes hardcore which reflects on his nature as well. But it’s bit hard to understand for forthcoming generations because in changing scenarios of society and because of economical enrichment, situations are changing and both individuals besides their gender differences living on the same plane, and going through with similar pattern of life.
The marriage got organized on due date and in a simple ceremony they Sahaj and Shreya got married. In that part there was a taboo of not sending the girl with the boy on the day of marriage but after some time, so it happened. After 6 months of marriage they met again for a ceremony, Gawana. Finally He got the right to bring Shreya at her house.
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